#AskRude: How do you tell one of your closest friends (male or female) that whatever they are doing is destructive?

#ASKRUDE ,: How do you tell one of your closest friends (male or female) that whatever they are doing is destructive?

Hey Divine Womyn,

Honestly love, if this is your friend there is no reason to hesitate. Especially if it is a close friend as you say it is. Being a good friend means that you do what is right by your friend no matter what. Even if that means upsetting said friend.

Friends are the family we get to hand pick. And as the chosen family it is your duty to do whats right.

There are plenty of times where my friends do things that are not the wisest… And me as a friend, I have to tell them about themselves. But this also works both ways! They do the same for me.

True indeed it may be difficult so don’t just jump into it. Consider how you will approach the situation before doing so. Make sure you choose the right words because in the mist of the moment we as humans can sometimes use the wrong verbiage. So make sure you think it through and choose the right words so you don’t damage your relationship.

I will tell you this though… When your friend snaps into reality and realizes you didn’t say anything, that may do more damage to the relationship than you actually saying something. So take your time, think it out and do whats right.

Madd Love,

Rude